Gray Area...

 I remember settling small homeowner and boat claims back in my early 20's (man that makes me sound old), and every time I researched a claim to it's policy it came down to my interpretation because most sections were not black and white, in fact there was a lot of gray area.  Turns out that even a bi-racial baby can be gray! 

Let me just say it like it is.  We checked all boxes for all ethnicity's for our adoption.  We did not limit ourselves to any one specific race.  This was our families decision and I realize not all adoptive families take the same route.  This is what we are comfortable doing.  We knew we would need to educate ourselves better and have as well as continue to.  It just so happens that a bi-racial mother picked us to be the family of her baby boy growing in her womb.  She has been looking through families since April and when she was presented ours, she just knew it.  Turns out that the mother of the baby is bi-racial and the father is white/Caucasian.  The ugly truth about adoption agencies is some charge extra for white babies.  Since this baby will only be 1/4 black they decided to up sell the baby as a white baby instead of a bi-racial baby.  Yup, therefore adding an additional $15,000 which yes is ABSURD!  This is not acceptable, completely ridiculous and not to mention the obvious but something we can NOT afford.  I'm no fool.  I'm not desperate and I find it very unsettling that this agency in UT is doing this.  Somehow, somewhere there was some misrepresentation.  Don't you worry, I had Amanda in TN and Jessica in GA going to bat for us.  This is something that Jessica has never delt with through this agency.  GA has had 30 successful adoptions through this agency in UT in the past 2 years.  This situation is putting that relationship in jeopardy and not only hurting us but going to hurt this birth mother who by the way thinks I'm on a plane to meet her...

All day yesterday, I went back and forth with Amanda and Jessica as they were all going back and forth with UT, it was crazy.  I also talked with a CPA about some $$ concerns of mine and learned a lot.  Anyhow the UT agency came down $3000 and that's when we had to make an emotionally hard decision and say NO.  It broke my heart.  As soon as we made that decision the phone rang again and they decided to come down significantly.  I'm sad because the initial joy I felt for this has turned into a financial decision.  The financial part of adoption is tricky, it's emotional and draining.  I can't explain how I feel right now.  I can't tell you what decision is going to be made, I seriously pray I would get some confirmation one way or another and some peace about this and what is going on.