Friday, December 14, 2012

Counting down..


Almost 35 weeks (Sunday)...  All I know is that after Christmas and then New Years our potential BM will be 38 weeks and we will hopefully have some plans in place for being there for the birth of our hopeful little boy!  How exciting - it's getting closer!!  I'm feeling more excited about meeting him as the date draws near.  The past four weeks, especially with this pumping schedule, have flown by and I can't imagine how fast the next four weeks will be for us.  There is so much to do and so much we need  - I feel like I should pack my hospital bag - LOL!!  After all, we will be staying in the hospital, in our own room, with our hopeful baby!  I had no idea about that by the way, until I called the hospital a few weeks back to inquire some things and they advised me that they give adoptive parents their own room.  That put my mind at ease, as I was confused about how that all would work.  We still don't know how it's all going to work with Lola yet though.  We had a wonderful friend offer to keep Lola until we left the hospital and then she would fly her down to us, she would fly back and Lola would be with us until we are able to leave the state which could be anywhere from 3 days -10 days.  Who knows!  That is a lot to ask of someone though.  It'd be nice if we had family here to help us out, these are the times that are tough on us living so far from our family. 

I would just like to put out there that the ladies in the lactation department at one of our downtown hospitals have been absolutely wonderful to me.  I had no expectations but they have surpassed any.  They have probably been the warmest of ladies to me in this experience, not knocking all you who do support us :)  But man are they supportive and compassionate.  Every time I walk in there, they are waiting for me, they know who I am, they tell me how wonderful I'm doing, they remember our hopeful babies due date, they are excited for us and I am just grateful.  I have felt special every time I walk in there.  I guess in this whole process of non-returned phone calls, feeling neglected, and the list goes on -they are on their game and it's very refreshing, it just wasn't something I expected and what a wonderful surprise, someone on their game and ready for me that advocates for me!!  Love them!  I especially love them because she gave me an exercise to do last night which allowed for me to sleep 5 hours in a ROW.  Other than my body already adjusting to getting up every 2-3, it was nice.  I need to call her today and give her my results and see if this is something I can continue to do or was it just a one night deal..hmm..hoping I can do that again :)

Joe and I discussed talking to Lola about this match.  I think around the first of the year we will gently let her know that we are working with a birth family, not make a big deal of it and not make any promises just that there is a possibility.  We want her to be somewhat prepared and not too surprised so giving her a couple weeks to digest feels right to us.   

3 comments:

  1. When my son was born 7 years ago they also gave us our own hospital room. It was amazing. He was a scheduled c-section and we took him from the ER (I cut the cord!),to the nursery, to our room. We kept him all night and he went to see his birth mom just two times (per her request). They released him the next day although she was staying longer due to the c-section and it was totally surreal. The hotel room for the next 10 days while waiting for ICPC was not fun (ha!), but still with the room in at the hospital it truly felt like he was ours from the very first second he was born. I will be praying for your experience to be just as wonderful!

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  2. Thanks for sharing Amber! We are really looking forward to this all feeling real soon. I'm so grateful they treat adoptive parents the way they do by giving us a room as we will need one. That is cool you got to cut the cord - I pray I can too :) She does want me there for the birth and parent from the go so hopefully it will all work out. Out of curiosity did you bring the baby to the BM's room or did a nurse? Any advise?

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  3. Hey there - I'm so sorry, I just saw this response when I came on to see your latest update (congrats!!). The social worker from the agency actually took him in the first time. We were sure he would not come back and just cried the whole time he was gone. Of course it was only about 15 minutes but it seemed like a life time! The second time was when we were leaving with Jaden and we went to see her since she was still there. I will never forget that conversation. She was crying very softly and it was breaking my heart but she said I want you to know these are not tears of sadness, they are tears of joy that Jaden has such an amazing family to go home with. She tells me every time she writes now that she is thankful for the journey because she always questioned God - why did He give her this baby when she couldn't raise him - and now she knows that it was because he was meant for us. She is really amazing. After a scam situation before her we were scared to trust but we went in 100% and I'm so thankful that we did.

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